once saw a passage:

people who want to take you home are on their way east, south, west and east;

the people who are willing to eat with you love the ups and downs.

people who are looking forward to seeing you can come through thousands of mountains and rivers.

those who love you deeply will always be free for you.

I think so.

whether a person cares about you or not depends on whether he is free for you.

people who really love you can't help thinking of you, can't help looking for you, and will want to spend more time with you.

people who don't love you

is always busy

my friend Xiaoqing recently told me that she broke up because her boyfriend was too busy.

she said that at the beginning, her boyfriend was still very attentive to him and responded to everything, even if he was busy at work.

but in the past two months, he has always said that he is busy and perfunctory, and seldom takes the initiative to find Xiaoqing.

even if Xiaoqing takes the initiative to communicate with him, he will feel that Xiaoqing is too troublesome and doesn't understand at all.

later, Xiaoqing accidentally found the Wechat message on her boyfriend's mobile phone, which was an ambiguous private message with other girls and sent a lot of messages.

boyfriend stumbles, explaining that he is just a friend.

finally broke up.

Xiao Qing said, "what he means by not having time is to chat with other people." It's not that he's not free, he's just not free for me. "

at first, I loved you in every way, and I relieved you no matter how busy I was at work, but then I forgot you again and again, and even blamed you for being unreasonable.

it's not that you've changed, but that he doesn't love it.

people who don't love you are always busy.

people who don't love you always think you don't understand.

in Red Rose and White Rose, there is a saying:

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"if a person doesn't have time, it's because he doesn't want to have time. If a person can't leave, it's because he doesn't want to walk away. If a person gives you too many excuses, it's because he doesn't want to care about you."

in the TV series Thirty, the same is true of Chen Yu and Zhong Xiaoqin.

Chen Yu always has no time to accompany Zhong Xiaoqin. He is too busy.

Zhong Xiaoqin sent him Wechat, but he hardly replied.

Zhong Xiaoqin called Chen Yu to pick her up after dinner. Chen Yu pleaded that she had no time and asked her to take a taxi home.

Zhong Xiaoqin is pregnant. Chen Yu said he didn't want to have a baby too early because he was too busy.

Chen Yu is busy with fish farming and work, but he is not free for his wife Zhong Xiaoqin. He never knew how to take care of his wife's emotional needs, which eventually led to divorce.

in fact, he is not too busy, but does not want to spend time on this relationship.

every "no time" has poured cold water on people's hearts.

disappointment accumulates over and over again, and if you save enough, you will leave.

people who really care about you

always be free for you

in wife's Romantic Journey 2, Zhang Jiani mentioned her love affair with her husband Buy Chao.

they first met at dinner, and since then, they have been free to help with whatever they need to do.

Zhang Jiani is moving. Mai Chao said he was nearby. He could come and help. He also bought a bunch of daily necessities for her.

at that time, Mai Chao asked where she was. After hearing this, he said that he was also in Hong Kong.

Zhang Jiani asked him if he wanted to go shopping with her family, and he just said "yes".

in Zhang Jiani's description, Mai Chao has been free to her since the day he met her.

people who really care about you are free for you at any time.

he will keep in mind what you say, and he will respond to your message in time.

he won't put you aside, keep you waiting and make you think.

if you are always ignored by the other person in a relationship, it means he doesn't care about you that much.

Weibo.

when girls fall in love with a boy, they take the initiative to chat with each other, hobbies, work, study, life, food, games, history, gossip. We talked about everything.

but the boy was indifferent and replied perfunctorily.

she asked boys out several times, and the boys always said they were busy these days.

because she understands that unilateral initiative is useless and has been "busy" all the time, which shows that he has never taken himself to heart.

have a reservation

words are very piercing:

"if I send a message to someone who is very important and he hasn't answered me all the time, I delete that dialog box. I always feel that I see that dialog box, as if I saw my own humility and flattery."

Don't take the initiative with wishful thinking, don't try to please others, it's only humble and disturbing.

he is the background of your life, and you are his A, B, C, D.

writer Zhang Haochen said:

"when he doesn't like you, it's useless for you to show up by his side deliberately and beautifully. The candy you send him is not sweet. Your 'what are you doing' from time to time is the same as a sales text message in his eyes? he can't understand the little thoughts you update in your state."

those who really love you will always be free for you.

he will reply to your message in time and take the initiative.Talk to you, take the initiative to ask you out.

because you are always the one he cares about most.

for people who are free for you

will give you sense of security

recently, at the party at the end of the year, I saw Xiao Jie again. When friends began to chat, everyone said that she had a good husband.

for five years together, from lover to marriage, Xiao Jie's husband always put her first.

she sent a message on Wechat, and her husband would reply as soon as he saw it. She was criticized by her superiors and felt aggrieved, so her husband called to comfort her.

when her husband is on a business trip, he will report his itinerary to Xiao Jie every day. When he is busy in the evening, he will make a video call to Xiao Jie, which will not let her worry, and he will also give Xiao Jie a full sense of security.

when I go home, I will bring some local specialties, or buy some practical gifts for Xiao Jie.

he will take the time to watch a movie with Xiaojie, put on a few bags of snacks and two cups of milk tea, and enjoy warm time together on the sofa.

he will keep in mind what Xiao Jie says and put it into action.

"because I love you, I care about your uneasiness."

A woman is a creature without sense of security. She needs you to give her a little more attention, a little more company, and actions to prove your love for her.

it is said that where a man's time is, his heart is there.

the man who is free for you is the man who really loves you. He will appease your uneasy little mood and give you the biggest sense of security.

Haruki Murakami said:

you have to remember those who hold you silently in the dark, those who make you laugh, those who chat with you all night, those who come to see you by car, those who say they miss you, make up 1.1 drops of warmth in your life, it is these warmth that keep you away from the haze, it is these warmth that make you a kind person.

for the rest of your life, love the person who is free for you.

even if there is a rush of cars and horses on the way, and the wind and rain hinder him, he is willing to step across mountains and rivers and cross the sea to see you.

, may you be warm and bright and bright from the time you meet him.

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