Is it not a kind of happiness to learn to be confused properly?
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some people say that cleverness is a gift, kindness is a choice, and confusion is a skill.
I think so.
is it not a kind of happiness to learn to be properly confused when you are alive?
just because you don't get through doesn't mean you don't see through
in the past, I always liked to talk about my views and comments on a person and write down my joys and sorrows on my face.
after a long time, having experienced right and wrong, and seeing more and more human feelings, I finally understand that silence is also a kind of wisdom.
you don't have to write it on your face when you hate someone; you don't have to talk about it when you hate someone.
two years ago, my friend started his own business and opened a chain of restaurants. I never thought that five restaurants would close down last year.
my friend not only lost all the money earned in the past few years, but also owed more than 2 million yuan to the supplier. U3000
many people who seem to have a deep connection on weekdays stayed away at that time, avoiding him who had failed to start a business, for fear that his friends would ask them to borrow money.
my friend sold his house in Shenzhen, repaid the debt, slowly got out of the trough, and posted it again to those who had not extended a helping hand when he was in distress.
I asked him, "those who ignore you when you are down, why not block you at all?"
the friend replied, "I wish I knew a lot of things. I will not regard them as friends in need, but there is no need to become enemies."
when I was a child, I didn't understand why adults should be kind and polite to everyone. Even those who didn't like it very much, they could communicate politely and smile in return.
later I realized that this is an expression of true maturity in my heart. in fact, everyone knows who is kind to you and who is hypocritical.
those who are kind to you should be doubly cherished; those who are not sincere enough should be treated as casual acquaintances.
in the adult world, you don't have to explain everything. Most of the time, you have to learn to see through.
Zhu Ziqing said that silence is a philosophy of life, and when used well, it is also an art.
for some people, you just need to see through, but you don't have to say it; for some things, you just have to see through, and you don't have to expose it.
who is good and who is bad, who is true and who is false, as long as you know it in your heart, there is no need to talk about it.
Don't care, it doesn't mean you're really stupid
have seen such a story:
there is a highly respected Zen master who is often instructed and loved by everyone.
but there was a man who hated the Zen master so much that he went to the Zen master and attacked and insulted the Zen master.
when the man was tired of scolding and shut up, the Zen master asked him faintly: "
you have to give someone something, but others don't want to accept it, so whose is it?
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he replied without thinking: "of course it's my own."
Zen master went on to say:
"then I didn't accept what you scolded me just now. Are those words mine?
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the man was said to be ashamed and fled in a hurry.
when you meet unreasonable people, it is wise not to take it seriously.
Don't worry about it, don't pester it, it's the best fight back.
I have heard a proverb: "if a dog bites you, another bite of a dog will only make your mouth covered with hair."
to argue with unnecessary people and win, you are just wasting your time and losing, and you will inevitably be angry with your health.
in our life, we will inevitably encounter people and things that are not satisfactory. Instead of spending energy on people and things that are not worth it, we should ignore them and find a sense of inner freedom and comfort for ourselves.
No one can make everyone like it. No matter how good you are, there will be people who are dissatisfied with you. Less worrying and less serious is the best way to live.
as the saying goes, "
A person is happy not because he has more, but because he cares less.
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pretends to be stupid doesn't mean it's really stupid
Granny Liu is a very popular character in A Dream of Red Mansions. although she is a poor and poor small potato, she lives a very thorough life.
on one occasion, in order to please Mother Jia, Wang Xifeng and her servant girl Yuanyang planted gorgeous flowers on Grandma Liu's head.
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seeing this "funny" scene, Jia Mu and everyone could not help laughing.
for an old man who is in his twenties, it is somewhat "indecent" to have a head full of flowers.
Granny Liu said, "
I don't know what I've done on this end. I'm so respectable today.
although I am old, I love flirtatious when I am young. If I love a flower and pink, it is better to be old today.
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afterwards, Yuanyang apologized to Grandma Liu, who just smiled and said, "
We coaxed the old lady to have an open heart, there is nothing to be annoyed with!
but let's make a joke.
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is Granny Liu really stupid?
No.
the purpose of her visit to Jia Fu was to get closer and get some help.
in the end, Grandma Liu also got what she wanted, getting supplies and silver taels from the Jia government, so that her family did not have to worry about their livelihood and fuel.
Granny Liu's relaxed and humorous words and deeds not only resolved the awkwardness of the atmosphere, but also relieved her heart, and achieved her goal at the same time. Why not do it?
there are too many unsatisfactory things in life. Sometimes, we live very tired, not because life is too mean, but because we care too much about some voices and opinions.
if you are aggrieved, you will only get angrier and angrier when you think about it, and when you encounter unhappy things, you will only become more and more sad.
We live too seriously, too sober, but also lose some confused happiness.
when you get to a certain age, you will know that people do not need to be too smart, and sometimes confusion is also a kind of happiness.
sometimes choose to play stupid, not because of cowardice, not because of really stupid, but some things to learn to turn, smile to see light, so that their hearts are not so tired.
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in fact, there are a lot of disturbances in life, true or false, there is no need to worry too much about it.
not everything has to contend for right and wrong, and not everyone has to compete with him.
sometimes, the heart should be simpler and the person should be confused.
as the movie line says, "
No one is a fool, but sometimes we choose to play dumb to feel what is called happiness.
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, may we all have this open-minded from the inside out, calmly face life, and find our own inner peace and happiness.