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I have heard a sentence before:

"Don't judge me rashly. You only know my name but don't know my story." You only hear what I've done, but you don't know what I've been through. "

in fact, no one has the right to evaluate or interfere in other people's lives.

is like flipping through other people's moments, it is most taboo to show a sense of superiority when others share their happiness.

what may be insignificant in your eyes has a different meaning in other people's world.

have seen such a story:

there was a boy who happened to be lovelorn, so his friend introduced him to a single girl.

the avatar is a selfie of a girl, wearing a platinum necklace with a delicate pendant hanging from it.

the boy explained:

"Girls like this who even show off their avatars are generally very vain. I like to post nine palace selfies in moments, posting this and that. I don't like this kind of vain girl who has never seen the world before. She certainly doesn't get along with me. "

as he spoke, there was a deep, sarcastic expression on his face.

after hearing this, his friend looked at him calmly:

"do you know? The necklace was a birthday present from the girl's grandmother. She hasn't changed her Wechat profile picture since the death of her grandmother, who loved her most. "

there always seem to be people in life who like to hurt others with malicious and speculative eyes:

he has something to say about everything he posts in your moments, but he feels abnormal about what he doesn't like.

these people assume a high posture and are unable to extricate themselves from their own world by belittling others and raising themselves.

does not know that the greatest malice of a person is to impose his own understanding on others and always think that he is right.

when recognizing and forming an impression of others, they think that others also have similar characteristics to themselves, and project their own feelings, will and characteristics onto others and impose them on them.

it is said that you see the mind, what you think, what you see, what you meet, what you believe.

what kind of person you are, what kind of world you see.

expresses the attitude towards others, but also defines oneself.

in fact, the other person you hate in your eyes may be the hidden self in your heart.

it's just that the self in this heart is not accepted or even hated by you, so transfer this feeling to others.

as Meng Fei said:

"all sense of superiority does not come from appearance, stature, knowledge, family, wealth, status, achievement and power, but from lack of insight and compassion."

the more things, people and things a person doesn't like, the lower the person's realm and the smaller the pattern.

Don't despise other people's ignorance, poverty and vulgarity, because of the differences in birth, intelligence and upbringing, each of us has our own height.

Mr. Lu Xun wrote such a paragraph:

"A man downstairs was sick to death, and the family in that room was singing the gramophone; opposite was playing with the children. There were two people laughing madly upstairs and the sound of playing cards. There was a woman crying over her dead mother on the boat in the river. Human joys and sorrows are not the same. I just think they are noisy. "

Yes, there is no real empathy in this world, and I know that there is no one who can fully understand another.

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most of the time, we really can't empathize, but we can choose to be kind.

and see others happy for a thing, even if do not understand, do not joke is also a kind of kindness.

the Great Gatsby begins with a classic saying:

"whenever you feel you want to criticize someone, remember that not everyone has the advantages you have."

because you haven't experienced other people's lives, don't easily define and judge anyone or anything.

and what you see is only the tip of a person's iceberg.

the "loser" in your eyes is relentless in buying cosmetics and designer bags, but the money may come from a little bit of hard work.

the "iron rooster" in your eyes, you are reluctant to buy expensive clothes for yourself, but you may send all your savings home.

in your eyes, "high achiever" seems to have learned effortlessly, but he may have stayed up several nights and done hundreds of more problems than you.

sit still and often think about your own mistakes and gossip about others.

Don't judge the world by your pattern. Your standards can't measure other people's lives.

as Leo Tolstoy said: you are not me, how do you know the road I have traveled, the pain and joy in my heart.

there is a question on Zhihu. What kind of experience is it to have been to more than 100 countries?

there is a highly liked answer:

"understand that there is no absolute right in this world, and be able to accept that other people have different values and their derived ways of thinking."

, people who are really cultured will learn not to belittle what others like.

encourage each other.