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Daojing

No one is perfect when he lives in the world, and no one can avoid making mistakes.

there are some mistakes in life that will teach you lessons and avoid making them again.

however, some mistakes, once committed, will bring great disaster to themselves, and even change the course of their lives.

mistaking the platform for skill

as the ancients said, "he who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise."

you know, we

being able to know and know others is wisdom, but being able to know and know yourself is really smart.

the environment around each of us is complicated and different. As a result, sometimes we don't have a clear understanding of our abilities.

will even regard the resources of their own platform as their own ability, thus blindly arrogant and bring disaster to themselves.

Fugui is very grateful to the boss and works very hard every day. When the boss sees that he works seriously, he gradually leaves the restaurant to him.

the business of the restaurant is getting better and better.

after a few years, the business of the restaurant owner became bigger and bigger, and the rich became a little famous around here.

every time I go out, I can always hear other people's praise:

"is the wealth too powerful?"

"without wealth, this restaurant is going to close down."

Dive right into our spectacular collection of red prom dresses. We have cuts and forms to fit any silhouette.

"Fu Gui, if you come to our hotel, I'll let you be the shopkeeper of our hotel."

gradually, Fu Gui also thought that it was his own credit that the restaurant business was so good now. He became arrogant and turned a deaf ear to the restaurant owner.

thought:

I am not a beggar at that time. I have plenty of places to go. I don't know how many restaurants let me be the shopkeeper.

but he was wrong. When he came to the restaurant before, the owner said:

"before, it was because you were in a restaurant that we said some polite things to you because we wanted to cooperate with the restaurant, but now you are not even as good as an ordinary person. I don't even want to work for me."

you know, the greatest ignorance of being a man is not recognizing his position and mistaking the platform for his own ability.

and the really smart people can always treat the praise and slander of others with an ordinary heart.

Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself. Be able to know yourself objectively, in the interaction with others will not be arrogant, the road of life will be wider and wider.

mistake temper for character

as an old saying goes, "the supreme good is like water, and water is good for all things without dispute."

is to tell us to learn to control our temper just like water.

I believe that there are always some people around you who get furious when they encounter a trifle. Whenever they give him advice, he always says, "No way, that's my character."

everyone knows that temper is a kind of spiritual practice for everyone. A good temper will make people feel like a spring breeze, while those who regard temper as their own character will make people stay away and bring disasters to themselves.

when Zeng Guofan first entered his official career, he had a very bad temper. When he was in office, he often quarreled with others and even insulted him.

therefore, everyone kept their distance from him, and Zeng Guofan was severely criticized for it.

but Zeng Guofan still didn't realize his mistake. when he got home, he became more grumpy, and his wife, children and servants had to endure his abuse every day.

later, when a friend came to be a guest at home and persuaded him, Zeng Guofan realized his mistake.

becomes extremely friendly, he

official career

is also getting better.

losing temper is an instinct, but knowing how to control one's temper is the skill.

people with a large pattern and self-cultivation will not let their momentary emotions affect others.

after all, life is won by kindness and lost by temper. Only when you know how to control your temper and tolerate others, will you make your life full of sunshine.

mistook a bad friend for a best friend

official career

is also getting better.

losing temper is an instinct, but knowing how to control one's temper is the skill.

people with a large pattern and self-cultivation will not let their momentary emotions affect others.

after all, life is won by kindness and lost by temper. Only when you know how to control your temper and tolerate others, will you make your life full of sunshine.

mistook a bad friend for a best friend

what kind of person you are with, you will gradually become the same person.

the friends around you will have a great impact on your life, and even determine your fate.

in the Spring and Autumn period, Ghost Guzi had four disciples: sun Bin, Pang Juan, Su Qin and Zhang Yi.

among the four, Sun Bin and Pang Juan have the best relationship. They become brothers, Sun Bin is the brother and Pang Juan is the younger brother.

one day, King Wei recruited talented people from all over the world to serve as generals and ministers of the State of Wei. When the news reached the mountain, Pang Juan decided to go down the mountain, while Sun Bin chose to follow Mr. Gui Gu to continue his study. finally, the two left in tears.

after going down the mountain, Pang Juan came to the State of Wei. His years of knowledge was deeply appreciated by the King of Wei and was reused. He served as Marshal of the State of Wei and was in charge of the military power of the State of Wei.

years later, Sun Bin, who had been successful in learning, also went down to the State of Wei, and Pang Juan learned that sheThe brothers came and greeted each other with courtesy.

but when he learned that Sun Bin had learned from Mr. Gui Gu, he envied Sun Bin's talent and feared that his meeting would threaten his position. As a result, the news of Sun Bin's adultery with Qi was secretly spread.

soon the news reached the King of Wei, who was so angry that Sun Bin's knee was cut off and inscribed on his face.

in the end, the desperate Sun Bin had to pretend to be stupid, which escaped the scourge of murder.

the ancients said, "the sergeant smells the way, walks it frequently; the sergeant hears it, if he survives; the corporal laughs when he hears it."

Laozi divides people into three kinds according to everyone's understanding of "Tao". Similarly, friends are also divided into three, six or nine grades.

if you mistook a bad friend for a best friend, you will be cheated if you are cheated. If you take it seriously, it will endanger your own safety and bring disaster to yourself.

mistaking the platform for its ability and overestimating itself will surely lead to resentment.

mistook temper for character, and if you indulge yourself, you will certainly offend others.

mistakenly regard harming others as bosom friends, and trusting others is bound to cause trouble.

therefore, when we make every decision, we must reflect on it while walking.

because there is no rehearsal in life, we don't even have a chance to start all over again.

Life is not easy. Take every step before you take a big step. If you don't make three mistakes, it will be plain sailing.