it is not easy to see a person clearly when he is alive.

false feelings are ugly; it is hard to find out who is good and who is bad.

but in fact, after much experience, you will find that if you want to know a person, you don't need to guess or try at all. You can tell him or her by looking at his way and habit of speaking.

as the old saying goes, "you can know a man by hearing his words."

A person with a round and firm tone is bound to have an open-minded and calm character.

people who often sigh are more likely to feel inferior and complain.

people who like to speak softly tend to be kind and amiable.

and those who like to say "thank you" are usually the following three kinds of people.

A person of good cultivation

there was a little test:

A man goes to the door of the store and pays special attention to how everyone reacts when he holds the door for the person behind him.

after several rounds of tests, he found that some of the people passing by would directly stride in, ignoring his help, while others would smile and nod their thanks to him.

in fact, saying "thank you" is only a small detail, but it can show a person's good self-cultivation.

I have heard such a sentence:

"A person's face is the outer skin. What really determines a person's image is another face: self-cultivation. "

what is self-cultivation?

the encyclopedia explains:

"self-cultivation is a person's noble quality and correct attitude towards others."

there is a saying in Xunzi: benevolence, righteousness, propriety and kindness are to people, and they are like goods, wealth and corn at home.

although self-cultivation is invisible, it is deeply rooted in the heart and navigates for life day after day, which determines the journey and end of our life.

those who often say "thank you" may turn against the wind because of their good self-cultivation and conduct, even if their external conditions are not as good as those of others.

those who have good self-cultivation are virtuous and go far away.

people with a sense of proportion

"if you say it, you will know it; if you say it silently, you will know it."

this sentence is taken from Xunzi Fei Twelve Zi, which aims to warn the world that mouth is the door of misfortune and good fortune, and that it is wise to know how to be cautious in words and deeds and to take care of the feelings of others.

in the adult world, the most important hidden rule is to speak with a sense of proportion.

recently, the name "Guo Qilin" has appeared frequently on hot search.

but what is praised most is his unobtrusive and measured EQ.

when recording variety shows, Guo Qilin walked into a clothing store with his companions. Facing the warm greeting of the waiter, Guo Qilin always said "Thank you" with a smile.

under the camera, he is still very polite. When talking to teacher Chang Baohua, he keeps bowing and bowing. When he hears a compliment, he also stoops down to say thank you.

he has not lost his sense of being a man because of his "popularity". He will never be perfunctory when he should be polite.

in this way, he is modest and gentle, has a sense of proportion and knows how to think of others.

Cai Kangyong once said:

"the more you can talk, the happier others will be, and the happier they will be, the more they will like you; the more others like you, the more help you will get, and the happier you will be."

in many cases, the discretion of speaking is also the embodiment of a human intelligence.

people who are grateful

Zeng Guofan once said: "A gentleman is not lightly appreciated, but unforgettable."

people with a good heart are always happy, while those who are grateful are always contented.

they do not take for granted the efforts of others, and they will not be used to the love of their relatives and friends, but will be open-minded, gratified, warm and contented.

therefore, life is always full and happy, and finally towards the bright.

there is such a fable:

both of them went to see God and asked the way to heaven.

when God saw that the two men were hungry and thirsty, he gave each of them a portion of food. One of them was grateful, while the other was indifferent.

, God sent the man who said "thank you" to heaven.

people who are turned away are not convinced:

"I just missed a thank you. Why is there such a big difference?"

God said:

"it's not that you didn't say thank you, you don't have a grateful heart. The road to heaven is paved with a grateful heart. Only a grateful heart can open the door of heaven, but not to hell. "

A person's life, regardless of success or failure, will get too much help from people.

even if you can't repay each other, you should have a grateful heart to make your efforts better.

every "thank you" is like a string of Ding Dong water droplets injected into my heart, constantly grateful, and will eventually converge into gurgling water and irrigate happy flowers.

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there is a saying in the Book of Rites and Music:

"the beginning of every sound is born from the heart. When the heart moves, things make it so. Feel the things and move, so the shape is in the sound. The voice corresponds to each other, so it changes. "

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you can tell what kind of person you are by what you say.

people who often say "thank you" have a good family style.Know how to be measured, grateful, comfortable in words, warm in attitude.

with them, the heart is warm, life is carefree, even if the wind and rain, can also be silent and happy.

, may you and I both cherish the friend who often says "thank you" to himself.