above the point

and haggle over it,

it's better to be confused

Zeng Guofan once warned his son that he must know the word "muddy" in dealing with the world.

you don't have to be too serious, you don't have to be too clear.

"when the water is clear, there is no fish, and when the water is clear, there is no friend."

when you encounter other people's mistakes and embarrassment, you might as well turn a blind eye.

there is no need to ask for perfection or to keep people from coming down.

when it comes to the entanglement of interests, it is better to be friendly than to make a small profit.

it is a blessing to suffer losses, as long as the other party does not advance by an inch, it does not matter if there are some small gains.

Zheng Banqiao once said:

"it's hard to be confused."

there are some things you don't have to see too clearly, and some people don't have to understand too much.

A hundred years of life, being too serious will only make you suffer.

see through, don't talk through, don't argue, see through, don't talk through.

learn to be confused, life can nourish the mind, calm and leisurely.

since you can't force it,

it is better to learn to satisfy

as the old saying goes:

"it's up to man to plan things and to get things done in heaven."

there are many things that cannot be controlled by manpower.

No matter how much effort you make, sometimes you can't fight for your life or heaven.

Zeng Guofan devoted half his life to helping the world.

but in his old age, he is still wavering and the river is declining.

he is not reconciled to it, but he is powerless.

the ancients said:

"nine times out of ten, life is not what you want."

dissatisfaction is life, and imperfection is life.

if you can't look forward, you might as well look back.

if you can't force it, it's better to cherish what you have now.

learn to cherish the present and cherish what you already have.

No need to seek, no need to persevere.

Silence and contentment in life is also a kind of comfort.

quarrel with him,

is not as good as peace of mind

emotion is not the enemy, but the most important psychological mechanism in the evolution of human beings over thousands of years.

it makes us angry to deter enemies who cross the line.

it makes us anxious and urges us to take action.

but emotion is not an end, but a means.

when anger is not enough to solve the problem, and when anger can only screw things up, calm down and take a deep breath.

only when you are calm and calm can you be reasonable with the facts.

after all, we just want to solve the problem.

Napoleon said:

"he who can control his emotions is greater than taking down a city."

emotions need to be controlled, but even more needed to be managed.

be calm, raise your own grievances and point out each other's problems.

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when reason has the upper hand, after all, it is more conducive to solving problems.

running, listening to music, and taking a deep breath are all ways to control your emotions.

but more importantly, you need a strong heart.

since you can't get what you want,

try to let it go

Modern people often say: break, give up, leave.

the person whose fate has come to an end should be cut off;

give up what is beyond your reach;

if you want to be greedy in your heart, you should leave.

all a man wants in his life is his inner ease and ease.

how can you be free if you are bound by your own desires?

A divine Archer hits a hundred shots, and the king rewards him with thousands of gold to see his arrows.

as a result, he never missed, but missed.

Laozi said: those who hold it lose it.

the more persistent you are, the more you will screw up.

put it down and take it easy.

only after exhaustion can one understand the limits of life and know the illusion of persistence.

it is better to let go of obsession, be light about everything, want to open up a little, and follow the fate and heart of everything.

Life can go calmly, free and easy instead.